motherhood and the back up plan

saw this movie called the back up plan. had gone to see it with super excitement coz very very recently i had discussed a similar Plan-B idea with my close friends! the movie is a huge disappointment. disappointing enough for me rant and rave on this blog.

it either could have been a serious film about how 30 something single women (still waiting for mr. right) deal with a very real hope and wish to raise a kid or a real funny movie with what happens when you meet your mr.right after getting pregnant with a donor sperm.

this was neither. i can't write funny so i will skip suggesting humour options.

all i was wondering was, when does one make the transition from memories of childhood and "my mommy stories" to actually wanting to become a mommy? from "i-can't-handle-even-other-people's-cute-kids" to "if-i don't-find-guy-i-will adopt" - those are two different places altogether. and there are many like me, who have been to both these.

here is to motherhood. single, double, adopted, inseminated, planned, unplanned, traditional, modern, ultra-modern - for our fabulous moms and the mommy that you are or will be.

maa.N

Nida Fazli

besan kii so.ndhii roTii par

khaTTii chaTanii jaisii maa.N

yaad aatii hai chaukaa-baasan

chimaTaa phukanii jaisii maa.N

baa.Ns kii khurrii khaaT

ke uupar har aahaT par

kaan dhare aadhii so_ii aadhii jaagii

thakii dopaharii jaisii maa.N

chi.Diyo.n ke chahakaar me.n gu.Nje

raadhaa-mohan alii-alii

murGe kii aavaaz se khulatii

ghar kii ku.nDii jaisii maa.N

bivii, beTii, bahan, pa.Dosan

tho.Dii tho.Dii sii sab me.n

din bhar ik rassii ke uupar

chalatii naTanii jaisii maa.N

baa.NT ke apanaa cheharaa, maathaa,

aa.Nkhe.n jaane kahaa.N ga_ii

phaTe puuraane ik alabam me.n

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